This is from the book "269 Amazing Sex Tips and Tricks for Women". Their suggestion for helping you get in the mood for love is short, sweet and will work better the more you practice.

If you’ve experienced Kundalini Yoga you’ll know all about this. I’ve taken some classes and it REALLY helps you get in touch with your erotic breath and erotic energy ;-) It can be tricky finding a local teacher but this is a great place to start! The comments in brackets are mine.

"Kundalini Meditation”

Practitioners of Kundalini Yoga use a special ‘opening-up-the-body meditation’ before meeting their lovers. (this is a 4 step process that they have listed as #239 to #242 from their list of 269 tips)

#239
Stand in one spot, with your knees bent. Let your whole body shake so that it lets go of any tension you might be feeling.

#240
Put on some music and dance, letting your body flow naturally to the rhythms. (I suggest you have a few songs put aside for this purpose. You know - the ones that really get your inner lioness purring, or even roaring! I’m partial to heavier rock songs from AC/DC, Def Leppard or Aerosmith myself.)

#241
Sit and watch your mind at work, as if it were a film and you were viewing it. (try to remain non-judgmental and simply observe…)

#242
Lie down and sense the support that the ground offers you. (You may discover this to be the first time in a long while that you actually are quiet, still and are truly feeling support - embrace it! Remember always to breathe and allow whatever happens to happen.)

This is really all about getting tuned in to your own body and getting out of the typical ‘fight or flight’ mode that most of us tend to live in throughout our days.
 
I’d love to hear suggestions for sexy music - I can post them on the blog too. I’m always looking for new suggestions for sexy pole dance music. I dug out my "Poison" Greatest Hits CD which really brought me back.

If you’re joining us for the Sexy Challenge! (see Lioness Latest above) this is Suggestion #3. Only one more left to go to get you warmed up for summertime loving!

If you wish to purchase the book for 263 other Amazing Tips and Tricks for women Click Here

Many suggest the best way to avoid them is to buy only glass or silicone products.

The sex toy industry has really improved quality control even in the last 10 years.

Yes, some toys may contain small amounts of pthalates that can lead to health issues in some animals, but I’m pretty sure the animals weren’t using the products on their genitals - they were probably being injected with the stuff!

I believe in eating organic, not ingesting drugs if possible and my family thinks I’m a bit fanatical in what I eat, drink or put on my skin - so I’m pretty careful.

However, I don’t agree with the questionable tactics that say you shouldn’t use anything other than a (very costly!) silicone or glass dildo or vibrator.

These toys are about 3 or 4 times more expensive than plastic, jelly or latex options.

Clean your toys properly, toss them if they get cuts, scrapes, or dings in them and don’t expect them to last for 10 or 20 years before replacing them and you should be fine!

If you are concerned, put a condom on your toy, experiment with other brands or speak to an informed person to help you meet your sexual needs, peace of mind AND your budget!

"If you’re looking for serious romance, you can’t do better than by combining food and clean sheets."

"Begin with a tease that doesn’t give away too much. Early in the week visit a gourmet sweet shop and pick up a couple of chocolate-covered strawberries (or make them yourself!). Put them on a pretty plate and leave them on his dresser with a note underneath.
 
‘I have more. Interested? Meet me Saturday afternoon at two. In the bedroom.’

Well now, there’s something that’ll keep him occupied the rest of the week! And when the appointed hour rolls around, don’t let him in the bedroom until you have the whole scene prepared: One big tray perched on your bed, loaded with bowls of sliced fruit. Try one cup of sweet, sticky, melted milk chocolate, and another that’s decadently rich, creamy and dark. Whipped cream, of course, piled high and sprinkled with brown sugar. (Half the fun is thinking about the ingredients!)
 
And then there’s the piece de resistance. It’s you, wearing the one outfit that’s always guaranteed to make men melt: a great big oversized white dress shirt. One of his of course. And that’s all.

Well not exactly all; as you move about, it becomes clear that there are some very interesting and extremely brief bits of satin and lace under there. But he’ll have to wait to see more.

Right now it’s time to crack open the bubbly, catch up on all the gossip of the week, and indulge in a little chocolate forplay. And enjoy the first picnic of your life where there are no ants.

This is only one of the 101 different romantic escapades Laura suggest in her book.

Feel free to replace strawberries with another delight that works best for you and your man. You can also be flexible with your choice of time and place and eve the outfit you wear. Do what works for YOU and HIM! For melted chocolate you’ll need to add butter or oil. You can ask at the local bakery or online for details.

As I’m fond of saying, making love (and making romance) is like dancing - I can give you the steps, but to get the most from it, add your own style to truly make it work for you!

This is a great question and one with many answers. My first response is "How would you feel if he brought out a vibrator that he used with another lover?" Each relationship is different and it’s really up to you to decide how to proceed. Just be cautious.

It may also depend on the ‘toy’. Perhaps massage oil or lubricant if purchased for someone else is acceptable, but a vibrator or cock-ring may not go over so well.

Certainly, disinfecting your toys (with an anti-bacterial spray) is a good place to start. Also, pick a neutral and loving moment (remember-not in bed!) and ask him how he would feel about using a sexy item that you already own. It’s amazing what you find out when you ask!

If you don’t feel comfortable even bringing it up, listen to that. It may be worth investing in new toys that you select together!

This topic is near and dear to me since I’m a sex and intimacy coach and my mission is to help women connect with their sensuality and achive their sexual potential - whatever that means for them. (AND I’m off to my pole dance class tonight!)

The owner of the studio where I take my classes has created a dance studio for women only with the express purpose of helping them to feel empowered. I offer workshops at the studio as it fits in with my passion of sexually empowering women.

It has been my experience, both personally and with clients, that connecting to your inner sensual self is IMPERATIVE if you want to be as successful in life AND in business as you possibly can. Our sexual energy is our life force or chi energy and keeps us vital and healthy and strong. It has even been proven that regular sexual activity with quality orgasms will help you live longer!

Confidence in one’s inner femaleness and feeling and being grounded in who we are as women is one of the most powerful things we can do to fully align with our purpose. We are female before we are mothers, daughters, co-workers, wives, teachers, etc. Fully connecting to our feminine power using such rituals as dance (being recorded far back in history) is tremendously affirming and empowering for many women who have been afraid or uncomfortable in their own skin.

Once we are truly comfortable with who we are as women, then we can stand tall, be more confident and grounded and we will emit a positive energy that men, women and children will be drawn to. We can watch as the law of attraction brings forth everything we need to then create the life we truly want and deserve to have.

I believe that pole dancing absolutely helps empower women. It’s purpose is not to connect with their inner slut (as had been suggested), though for some that may be exactly what they want or need, but to connect with their feminine power to be strong and vital like Mother earth, Mother Nature, Goddesses, etc. You can be the force that gives birth to your perfect life.

It will surely take a bit more than a few hours on the pole, but isn’t self and sexual empowerment an on-going journey with each step moving us forward to what we desire? For some women, this is a HUGE step and it can be tranforming for them and a shift can happen that PROPELS them forward. It can be truly amazing to be a witness to.

Again, these are my opinions and my intention is not to offend but merely to point out that it can be very empowering to connect with our sensual side indeed.

Let me know what you think!

PARKSVILLE — “I’ve seen the needle and the damage done.”

When local women’s health educator, Lisa Leger, hears that classic old Neil Young lyric she thinks of the depo provera shot.

The birth control needle is offered to women as a contraceptive option, but it can have damaging consequences. Leger has seen the damage done to women by the use of synthetic hormones in her almost 20 years counselling women on fertility awareness.

“I see women who have side effects from birth control pills or the shot immediately,” she said. “Those are the canaries in the coal mine. Their bodies tell them right away that tinkering with their normal fertility cycles and suppressing ovulation is a bad idea.”

The long term safety of hormone use is debated constantly. Research is emerging to suggest that hormonal contraceptive use can increase the risks of osteoporosis, cardiovascular disease, breast cancer and other chronic conditions that emerge later in life.

Leger’s concern about how hormonal products are sold to women as a benign lifestyle choice without adequate information about risks and side effects has motivated her to teach fertility awareness methods.

It has also prompted her to host a film screening and discussion about menstrual suppression products. The documentary is an official selection of the National Women’s Studies Association that examines the use of hormonal birth control for menstrual suppression. The film is titled Period: The End of Menstruation?

Documentary film-maker, Giovanna Chesler (www.g6pictures.com), who teaches media and communication at the University of California in San Diego interviewed every perspective for this film; from drug company marketing reps to goddess-worshipping menstrual celebrants and everyone in between.

The film includes the stories of patients who either liked or disliked suppressing their menstrual cycles with hormonal products. Leger expects the film screening and discussion will give participants the opportunity to air their opinions.

The free event is March 8 at 3 p.m. in the meeting room at Parksville Pharmasave. Call 951-0243 to register or drop in. For more details, go to www.internationalwomensday.com.

Basically they are considered water resistant and not exactly waterproof.

You can use a lot of toys in the bathtub as long as you don’t dip the section with the motor or batteries in the water.

Women usually just use the tips of vibrators for external stimulation so depending on how you hold up your vibrator, you can use lots of them in the bathtub.

If you want to feel more secure, this will take you to our Toys for Her page where you can check out the Elite, Blue Jelly and Mini Mite waterproof toys.

According to the website fandango.com the perfect Valentine’s Day film, according to WOMEN, is 2004’s The Notebook with Rachel McAdams and Ryan Gosling whose on/off romantic yearning spans a lifetime. For MEN, it was 1997’s Titanic where our romantic leads find hot, passionate love on an ill-fated marine catastrophe. Other notable mentions by both sexes were Sleepless in Seattle, Casablanca, Ghost, Pretty Woman, and A Walk to Remember.

This reminded me of the many hot and steamy encounters I’ve had while watching a romantic movie. I became inspired and offer you this sizzling idea to re-live the drive-in (for those who remember them!) or perhaps create a new experience of the movie date. Either way, prepare for an evening of romance and possibly some hot sex too!

Step 1:
Pick out a movie you know will get your inner lioness purring.
Step 2:
Select a time when you know you will both have 3 hours or so of uninterrupted time at home alone. You can always swap babysitting duties with another couple so you both win!
Step 3:
Shower or bathe and dress sensually for the evening. Add soft make-up or accessories. Even just pin up your hair or leave it down - just something different to show him you really want to make the evening special and he’s worth the time and effort.
Step 4:
Dim the lights or have candles burning to set the mood.
Step 5:
Have a big cosy blanket you can wrap yourselves in and snuggle under.
Step 6:
Start by rubbing each others feet. You can take turns so you get the full benefit of relaxation. Remember from last month, one way to your orgasm is through shutting down your amygdala with a foot rub!
Step 7:
Have nibbles you can feed each other such as grapes or popcorn. Make natchos and lick each others fingers or pick up a BBQ chicken at the market with no utensils allowed! You get the idea…
Step 8:
Flirt with him by giving him knowing looks, play with his hair or ears, put your arm around HIM for a change and make sure you are always touching part of him. Snuggle in close and whisper how he makes you feel!
Step 9:
Rub his thighs in a slow, sexy way throughout the whole movie - see how close you can get to his penis without actually touching it. Make his pants get tighter!
Step 10:
Whenever you see something in the movie that reminds you of him and how romantic or sexy he is, tell him and maybe squeeze his arm or give him a long, wet kiss to prove it.

Remember making love is like dancing - I can give you the steps, but to get the most from it, add your own style to truly make it work for you!

Unfortunately, we grow up not feeling “allowed” to say what’s on our mind much less feeling good about how to ask for what we want in bed!

Studies show more than 2/3 of women have at some point faked their own orgasm AND given that the most important part of love-making for men is their partner’s satisfaction, this is a tragedy! A recent survey by a Canadian magazine, Chatelaine, noted that 25% of Canadian women **regularly** fake their orgasm! So maybe tonight (or any night actually) do both of you a favour and have a truly satisfying encounter.

One way to begin is to choose a sexual position where you have your hand between your legs to masturbate yourself while making love. Take charge of your own orgasm, ladies! Alternatively, you can always use a vibrator so your forearms don’t get tired. Developing comfort with your body in front of your honey goes a long way towards helping them learn more about what turns you on.

Another tip to improve your sensual pleasure is to stay warm or ask for a foot rub. Do you like to make love when you’re cold? Being warm and having your feet massaged helps shut down the amygdala (which controls fear and anxiety) in the female brain. This assists your own arousability which is necessary for orgasm. Studies have shown that when the amygdala is engaged, you can’t get turned on, so shut it down by relaxing and not worrying about anything - not your kids, homework, shopping, renovation, banking, soccer games, dentist appointments, etc…)

Thanks to my friend, Beth Yim, for turning me on to the book, The Female Brain now available on our website under Products and Sensual Books from Amazon.

The old adage “use it or lose it” is just as true for the clitoris as it is for the mind. The sole purpose of the clitoris is sexual pleasure. If you are celibate or just don’t bother to get (or receive) any clitoral stimulation, your body will, over time, forget how to orgasm. This is a scary thought! So if you don’t have someone else playing with you tonight - play with yourself!

For those of you who who already enjoy the pleasures of a guaranteed orgasm every time (by doing it yourself), please send me a note about your favourite position for achieving sexual success. I’d love to pass along your ideas.

Half admit that body image affects their enjoyment of sex and the better they feel about how they look, the better sex is. This supports my belief that it isn’t always just about toys, technique and tactics but about what is going on inside of you (mostly the little voice inside your head) that makes the difference between sex and true intimacy.

They also mentioned that 22% of women never masturbate! That seems a darn shame if you ask me. Self-love is the absolute best path to having extra-ordinary sex. Not unlike the saying “you need to love yourself before you can truly love another”, I say it also applies to self-cultivation (Dr. Christiane Northrup’s word for masturbation) to truly know what you really want so you can then *allow* another to please you.

Each month I’ll offer you my Sensual Suggestion. For the contest, all you do is ACT ON IT and email me when you complete the Sensual Suggestion!

There will be a grand prize winner from all who email me each month after they complete that month’s sexy challenge. Check out more at www.lionessforlovers.com in the box under my picture.

I dare you! What have you got to lose - and what amazing new sensual discoveries could you find in each other?!

In fact, yes you can. If you use a vibrator on a regular basis (which for you could be daily, 4 times per day or every 2 days), you may develop an immunity or need a lot more vibration to reach orgasm. You may find that it takes more stimulation than it did before. The beautiful thing is that if you simply stop for a few days or a week, all will come back the way it was! The body is amazing, isn’t it?

If you can only reach orgasm by vibration, and no other way, some of you are concerned. My thought is regardless of how you get there, if you can only get yourself to the point of orgasm standing on your head, holding a parrot and having someone blow on your feet, who cares? As long as you are receiving pleasure (and isn’t orgasm a pleasure pinnacle?), any old way you get there is perfect for you! It’s much better than no orgasm at all.

So if you need vibration, check out our Products for some sexy accessories to add to your collection!

Importantly, the boys said that they were more likely to use condoms the first time they had sex since receiving sex education.

Now girls from rural areas and female high school drop-outs were less likely to delay having sex. But it still reinforces that fact that the more we teach our youth about sexuality, the better prepared they will be to handle this powerful, emotionally charged and even life changing experience that is making love.

This is step one for planning the sensual life of your dreams. Kissing can help you lose weight, relax, express love, boost your immune system, improve self-esteem, manage stress and stimulate your brain. Have I captivated your interest? There is one caveat; you have to be kissing your significant other. Here’s something that feels good, is natural, contains no additives, has no calories and is good for your health. So pucker up, it could save your life.

Why Kissing? There are a number of reasons.

A serious, tongue-tangling French kiss exercises all the underlying muscles of the face - which some say could keep you looking younger and certainly looking happier. A pucker kiss only uses two muscles. A real French kiss activates all 34 of your facial muscles, and the highest level of serious making out, properly done, engages every muscle and tendon in your body.

Kissing can slow the aging process - it tones your jaw and cheek muscles, reducing sagging. Kissing might even help you lose weight, says Bryant Stamford, PhD, professor and director of health promotion center at the University of Louisville. “During a really, really passionate kiss, you might burn two calories a minute–double your metabolic rate,” he says. (This compares to 11.2 calories per minute you burn jogging on a treadmill).

Kissing is a “sensual meditation”, says Joy Davidson, PhD, psychologist and clinical sexologist in Seattle, Washington. “It stops the buzz in your mind, it quells anxiety, and it heightens the experience of being present in the moment. It actually produces a lot of the physiological changes that meditation produces.

A few common excuses people have for not practicing the 10 second kiss - and solutions.

Excuse: I’d like to give my wife a ten second kiss when I get home, but I’m afraid my breath will smell and she’ll be offended.
Solution: Invest in fifty two rolls of breath mints, one for each week of the year.

Excuse: I can’t kiss and keep time all at once.
Solution. Set the microwave or oven timer until you get a feel for how long 10 seconds is. If you go over ten seconds…oh, well!

Excuse: The kids/grandkids keep getting in the way.
Solution. Let them try. What better childhood memory could they have than trying to squeeze between Mommy/Daddy or Grandma/Grandpa while they were kissing.

Excuse: When I come in at the end of the day, I get hit with a million problems at once. I can’t get my spouse to stop talking long enough to kiss me.
Solution. Don’t come in the same door every day. Come in another entrance and kiss your spouse. Sneak in the side door.

Excuse: My spouse seems so tense - I don’t want to be a bother.
Solution. The loving energy you’ll transfer to your spouse through kissing will relieve tension and make your spouse feel cherished.

The 10 Second Kiss is only part of the K.I.S.S. Plan that author Ellen Kreidman, PhD, describes in her book The 10 Second Kiss.

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After the 10 second kiss, comes:

· The 5 second compliment. Compliment at least one thing your mate has said or done daily.
· 30 minute talk. Talk and listen to each other for thirty minutes every day (with the TV off)
· Hug for 30 seconds daily.
· Stay connected sexually.
· Plan a fantasy for each other.
· Make love on the spur of the moment.
· Laugh together - every day.
· Make all your decisions based on love.

I hope you enjoyed this inspiration to kissing - I’m going to plant one on my honey right now before I write another word!

Let me know how it works for you!

One suggestion is to use polyurethane condoms on your vibrators and dildos. I know they are expensive but it is an option. Your best bet is to find a pharmacy that carries them as I can’t get good pricing on them.

Another suggestion is to stay away from rubber or even jelly toys. The manufacturing process is still not perfect in this industry and latex may still be present in seemingly latex free toys. If you choose plastic, metal or glass toys, you should be fine.

Silicone is an option for toys yet is very expensive. I don’t stock silicone toys due to the price, but will special order them. You may have to wait 3-4 weeks and there is a premium handling charge. Email me with inquiries.

Remember, our most popular vibrator, the Microtingler is latex free!:

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Then for the fund raiser in Tofino we had a gorgeous ocean view (and sound) room. That’s me by the wooden whale on our way back home. Man, those Tofino women are wild!

Whatever you want to call it, plan some time TOGETHER to chat about your wish-list of all the wonderful goodies you’d love to have at your bedside or when the mood strikes for sensual fun. You may want to do this over a romantic dinner, a quiet evening snuggling after the kids have gone to bed or even while you’re in the car alone for a few precious private moments.

The first tip is to actually write these items down. Yes, create an actual wish-list using a fun pen or marker and fancy paper even! Include things like sensual stories (maybe some you wrote), some spicy lotions, teasing toys, condoms, lubricant (water soluble only!), sexy movies, slinky lingerie and any other libido boosting treats you can dream up!

The second tip is to sit close together while you’re doing it-get physical and touch each other while you develop this romantic accessory list for the sensual life of your dreams. You may decide to lay down to do it or even get side-tracked and make love while you share your secret desires. Whoops! Either way, be near each other, share and open yourself up to the possibilities.

The third tip is to make a plan (with times and dates!) on how and when you will actually gather these delights together to make your Toybox a reality. Decide how you will store everything. A tip for parents: try a cloth bag with a string hanging from a hanger in your clothes closet. Decide who will gather what and by when. Write it down and commit to sharing in the process.

The last tip is to celebrate each phase of your adventure. With your dates recorded, plan a mini-celebration (even a 10 second kiss) as each stage is completed. When you have your list complete, I suggest a grand celebration - get those creative sensual juices flowing!

To help you commit to this fun and sexy experience, email me any stage of your plan and I’ll help you be more accountable. If you need any help with this, please email me and I’ll do what I can to assist you!

I’d love to know how your plans go, so please let me know!

Alternatively, we are also sometimes in perfect rhythm, with every-thing just right and then, damn, they move! If you had only let your partner know just how right it was, how perfect the speed, pressure, pace or whatever, you could have gone to the moon and back! If he or she doesn’t know (by your words or your actions), how great it is
and how important it is for you to have the bliss continuing EXACTLY as it is, how will they know? If you are silent, why wouldn’t they try to change it up a bit to get a reaction of some sort?

So HOW you ask? In this issue let’s discuss the ‘when’. A critical part of any conversation (especially one that you feel is very important) is actually having an agreement from both parties to even have the conversation! Ever said “Honey, we need to talk”? What you’re saying here is that YOU have a need to talk. In fact, the other person in the “we” may not even be aware there is a conversation to have!

Consider, “Honey, I’d like to chat about something that is important to me. Can you let me know when is a good time?” Perhaps while he has his head buried in the car engine or while he’s neck deep in work isn’t a good time. Try to pick a time where the mood is loving and relaxed and you can look your partner in the eye and, better yet, maintain physical contact by holding hands or touching an arm or a thigh. If you have agreement to continue, go for it!

Keep things light and fun. If you’re really shy and don’t want to look at him (though I suggest you work up your courage and look him in the eyes), perhaps you can be sitting beside each other on the couch and watching TV. Say something like “I love the ‘chocolate ice cream’ (insert your sexual play here) that we have/do and I was
wondering if we could try adding ’some candy sprinkles to it’ (insert your preferred sexual suggestion here) next time?”

Suggesting an ‘additional’ idea or adding something new will likely get him interested. Suggesting a complete replacement (such as let’s have only banana splits from now on) is likely to put him on the defensive about his choice of dessert!

The key to making this work all the way is up to you - feedback! Let him know clearly how much you’re enjoying the sprinkles and you may be surprised at what he comes up with next!

Here is a Sexy Health Tip on Breast Self-Exams Published in 08/23/07 By (HealthDay News)

Women should examine their breasts regularly to detect lumps or abnormalities that could signal breast cancer. An exam should be done once a month, several days after the last day of a woman’s period.

Here are the five basic steps to a breast self-exam, courtesy of Breastcancer.org:

* Standing with your shoulders straight and your arms on your hips, face a mirror. Look for any differences in size, shape, color, swelling or bulging of the skin, changes in the nipple, or any signs of rash or redness.
* Raise your arms, examine your breasts for any of those differences.
* Gently squeeze each nipple to check for any discharge.
* Lie down, and feel each breast with the hand of the opposite arm. Feel all the tissue, applying pressure to check deep tissue for any lumps or abnormalities.
* Examine the breasts while you are standing or sitting, gently examining the entire breast. You may want to try this method in the shower, while the skin is slippery.